Algorithms are controlling you more than you are controlling them
Sep 17, 2024You’re more distracted than you think.
I know, because I’ve been there. Grabbing my phone more often than I care to admit, scrolling through notifications like it’s oxygen.
We tell ourselves it's “work,” it’s “networking,” it’s “research.” But it’s not. It’s just a distraction.
The real reason?
We’re terrified of silence. Of being without doing.
It’s easier to scroll than to sit with our thoughts. Easier to consume than to create.
But here’s the thing:
Consumption doesn’t make you valuable. Creation does.
If you feel like algorithms are controlling you more than you control them, you’re not alone.
Most of us are addicted to the dopamine hit of new content. But that’s not what high achievers do.
Great thinkers — from Marcus Aurelius to Steve Jobs knew the power of silence and focus.
Here’s how I break free weekly. Sometimes daily.
Take a Long Walk Without Your Phone
Nietzsche once said, “All truly great thoughts are conceived while walking.”
Why?
Because walking gives your mind space to wander. It creates a vacuum where new ideas can form.
Without a phone in your hand, you’ll notice things you’ve missed. The sounds of nature, the feel of the wind, the sensation of your feet hitting the ground. Walking without distractions is a creative superpower.
The irony is, while your mind wanders, you'll find the clarity you've been chasing for months.
Leave the phone. Take the walk. Let your brain detox.
Coach Someone Who Reminds You of Yourself
Want a fast way to see your blind spots?
Coach someone younger. See yourself in them. Their arrogance, their blind optimism.
It’s humbling and deeply insightful.
Seneca said, “While we teach, we learn.”
By mentoring someone else, you’re really coaching yourself. You’ll discover wisdom that isn’t found in books or podcasts, but in the act of passing down what you’ve learned.
Pick someone. Give them your time, no strings attached.
It will teach you more than another hour of scrolling ever will.
Call Someone From Your Past
Ever noticed how we only stay connected to the people who are active on social media?
We lose touch with the ones who matter most — not because they aren’t important, but because they aren’t online.
That’s backwards.
Call that old friend, mentor, or family member who doesn’t live on Twitter, Instagram or LinkedIn. Have a real conversation, without the likes, comments, or shares.
Many believe friendship is essential to happiness. They aren’t wrong.
You’ll find that the richness of real human connection far outweighs the shallow likes of a follower who barely knows you.
Read a Book That Shaped You
Books are time machines. They transport you to a different place, where your thoughts aren’t influenced by trends or hashtags.
Remember that book from your childhood? The one that made you dream big? Go back to it.
Reading books reconnects you with your core, reminding you of the ideas and imagination that social media has dulled over time.
Friedrich Schiller once said, “In solitude, the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself.”
Reading a good book is a solitary act. It strengthens your mind.
Write an Email to Your Future Self
Want to truly break the cycle of distraction?
Send yourself a letter, delivered 10 years from now
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Think about what you want your life to look like a decade from today. What would your future self thank you for? The act of writing it down forces you to get real with your goals and cut out the noise.
It’s a small step toward clarity, but clarity compounds.
When you zoom out, the endless scrolling on social media suddenly feels trivial.
Focus on what matters. Get back in the driver’s seat of your own life.